As a guy, I feel that one of the worse things I could be called is creepy. I interpret it to mean, “stay as far away from this guy as possible”. Being that I like women (as people—I’m not just talking about sexual attraction here), I don’t want them to be intentionally distancing themselves from
Category: Gender, Relationships, and Sexuality
Leading On
Ladies I get it. You don’t want to lead guys on. That’s good. I understand what you are really trying to get away from is those guys who just don’t seem to “get it” and won’t go away or leave you alone. I also understand you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. That’s good too.
Sexuality
It seems like there’s been a lot of talk about sexuality lately, or perhaps I’ve just happened to run across it more because of the people I follow. But in any case, this is one of several different things which has gotten me thinking about the subject lately. And I’m not talking about sexual orientation,
Bold Boundaries, Part 1: Seeing God
(Note: the primary message which inspired this post can be heard here.) Dan Brennan kicked off this year’s Sacred Friendship Gathering, themed “Bold Boundaries“. In the year since the first and most recent gathering, I had almost forgotten the intensity stemming from the depth of the presentations and the feeling of being surrounded by such
Problems With Spouse As Best Friend?
It seems that most people maintain that their spouse is and should be their best friend. I like the sound of this. I really do. It’s so… well, romantic. It sounds good and I don’t think it’s wrong. But… I’ve also developed some question for which I don’t yet have answers. Where does this concept
Is Sex Inevitable?
Can men (and women) control their often strong sex drive? We imply “no” by teaching women to protect themselves rather than teaching men not to rape. The church implies “no” as well when it promotes keeping distance between men and women. Are sexual desires a strong force? Absolutely. However I think they are more so
Expressing Love Outside of Romance
This post is part of the February Synchroblog “Cross Gender Friendships”. Those of you who have followed me for a while will remember that I did some writing about friendship between men and women. I reviewing those posts, I realized that I had not as of yet done a good job of explaining the subject
Inside the Mind of Men
This article was interesting. Since I’m not married, I don’t have a perspective on many of the points he mentions (since they’re mostly framed into a husband-wife relationship). But I offer feedback on a few. People say that men have all the power in society, but it doesn’t feel that way to most men. True.
Hot Topics
No, I’m not talking about the “goth” is now mainstream (10+ years ago) mall retail stores. I’m referring to topics which people are talking a lot about here recently. I usually pay little attention to these types of conversations, because there’s generally so little of value ever said by anyone. I heard a report on
Friendship Between Men and Women: Safety
One important topic to address in the conversation of friendship between men and women is that of safety, especially of women. “Worldwide, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex, or otherwise abused during her lifetime” (“The Resignation of Eve”, Jim Henderson, pp. 59-60). As men, I believe we need