I always second guess myself after I’ve written something critical. I think that I’m wrong and/or I didn’t say the right thing, etc…
I’ve noticed typically people are good at acting out of their frustration and anger, but poor at expressing why they are upset. I want to try and be the opposite. I feel that it’s not good if something is bugging you, to just hold it in a harbor it against the other person(s). Often times the other person doesn’t realize it, and if/when you start acting upset, they may have no idea what’s wrong. (There are times when something may be bugging you and you realize it shouldn’t. In that case the answer is to just get over it.) So for the times when things need to be shared, I thought I would state the two criteria I have for deciding whether or not to say something, in hopes that sharing this may be helpful to someone else.
The first criteria is I’ll try not to say anything unless I feel it will be beneficial in some way.
The second criteria is, I won’t say anything unless I feel I can find a way of communicating it in a way in which isn’t attacking.