Criticism Guidelines

By | January 2, 2006

I always second guess myself after I’ve written something critical. I think that I’m wrong and/or I didn’t say the right thing, etc…

I’ve noticed typically people are good at acting out of their frustration and anger, but poor at expressing why they are upset. I want to try and be the opposite. I feel that it’s not good if something is bugging you, to just hold it in a harbor it against the other person(s). Often times the other person doesn’t realize it, and if/when you start acting upset, they may have no idea what’s wrong. (There are times when something may be bugging you and you realize it shouldn’t. In that case the answer is to just get over it.) So for the times when things need to be shared, I thought I would state the two criteria I have for deciding whether or not to say something, in hopes that sharing this may be helpful to someone else.

The first criteria is I’ll try not to say anything unless I feel it will be beneficial in some way.

The second criteria is, I won’t say anything unless I feel I can find a way of communicating it in a way in which isn’t attacking.

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  • MBroaddus

    yeah, i know what you mean. most times when something is bugging me, i wait a day. that gives me time to get over it. i mean, let’s face it, most times when we are irritated with someone, we need to shake ourselves. we all have quirks and we’re told for forbear one another. waiting a day is my way of working it out.

    however, if by the next day or so the irritation is still taking up brain space, it’s important to try and communicate in love. if you’re trying to put the other person’s feelings first, you should be okay.

    love covers a multitude of sins. this includes the stupid things we’re prone to saying to one another as we try to express ourselves.

  • born_in_blood

    indeed

  • born_in_blood

    btw good criteria: something that is worth practicing